What Wisdom Has Taught Me About Noise
I grew up in a small town that only had a population of 1600. Many of my friends and even family say they could never live in a place so small. One of the first questions that are asked is, "What is there to do there?" Well, not much. However, on the other hand, quite a bit depending on what you like to do. Our family had a huge yard. So our yard was the neighborhood playground. You could play football, baseball, basketball, jacks, run all around the place and do just about anything you wanted to do. I had three younger brothers who always had lots of friends at our house. Boys are loud! My friends and I could play inside or outside because we had the space to do so. Sometimes we just didn't want to be bothered by the boys.Later on in life, I taught 6th - 12th grades at a Christian School. At our school, we had K3 - 12 on the campus. Students are full of energy, they talk all of the time, and they love to be around you. Children and students are loud! After college and different employment opportunities, I learned to study, work, and manage my life within the realm of noise. I could and can do many things with the TV, music on, or people talking. I learned to maneuver my world amid the noise around me.The real management of noise came when I had my children. My family can be loud! Both of my children love music. My son played the drums when he was at home, and my daughter loved to sing. Oh, and my husband and I love music also. Also, there always seemed to be someone at our house. Our kids always had friends at our home. Again, kids and a spouse are loud!The bottom line in all of this is that I thought that because I could manage the noise around me, I was OK. There would be times where I would need quietness or silence but not that often. I would take small breaks, but you realize that small is subjective and I just didn't like the quietness that much. After a while, I would turn something on because the silence made me uncomfortable.
Noises are all around us. Noise is something that is loud, unpleasant and causes a disturbance. What about the noises that are not just loud sounds? We can get accustomed to the noise and accept it. This last year I have been able to really look at some of the noises in my life. What had I simply accepted? Some of the noise that I assumed was God ordained, God blessed, God spoken and God directed had to be God evaluated. It's not until you have the opportunity to spend time alone, those months, with God that you evaluate EVERYTHING and EVERYBODY in your life.If you grew up in the church or have been in the church for a long time, you should periodically take time to evaluate or re-evaluate why you are doing what you are doing. Many people are following a pastor, bishop, minister or their family members (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather) instead of following God. You need to make sure you are pleasing God. Our goal should be to "Please the Master (God) and not the Pastor." Many are unknowingly seeking to "Please the Pastor, and the Master (God) will be pleased." If you are pleasing God, the man or woman of God will be pleased. Many people are doing churchy things to make man happy, and God is not pleased.During this year, I also did an evaluation of people. As parents, we spend time explaining to our children how to choose friends, how to be a friend and what to do if people do not want to be their friends. However, we do not take any of our own advice when it comes to our friendships and relationships. It is nothing worse than when your kids say to you, "mom or dad, you said" or "mom or dad didn't you tell me." If your advice is good enough for your children, it is good enough for you. Or at least it should be.Noise is a distraction. Noise causes you to lose focus. Many lose focus because they are bored, busy, distracted, or in the wrong place (job, church, relationship, city, school, etc.). Getting by yourself is often needed to get rid of the noise. Isolation is not always bad if you use it positively. If you use isolation to improve, you are ok. Isolation should never be permanent; it is only temporary so that you can remove the noise that has overtaken your life. Isolation should never be to the point that no one knows nothing about you. Be careful and be wise.
I have now learned where noise belongs in my life. I am OK with silence. This the time to enjoy the journey as I inhale and exhale along the way. This past year has taught me and showed me that somethings I was trying to control; others, I was trying to let others control; others, people were trying to control me; and others were just out of control.However, now it's all in God's hand, He is in control, I trust Him, and my faith is intact.Ecclesiastes 3:1-13 MSGThere’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
2-8 A right time for birth and another for death,A right time to plant and another to reap,A right time to kill and another to heal,A right time to destroy and another to construct,A right time to cry and another to laugh,A right time to lament and another to cheer,A right time to make love and another to abstain,A right time to embrace and another to part,A right time to search and another to count your losses,A right time to hold on and another to let go,A right time to rip out and another to mend,A right time to shut up and another to speak up,A right time to love and another to hate,A right time to wage war and another to make peace.
9-13 But in the end, does it really make a difference what anyone does? I’ve had a good look at what God has given us to do—busywork, mostly. True, God made everything beautiful in itself and in its time—but he’s left us in the dark, so we can never know what God is up to, whether he’s coming or going. I’ve decided that there’s nothing better to do than go ahead and have a good time and get the most we can out of life. That’s it—eat, drink, and make the most of your job. It’s God’s gift.