What Wisdom Has Taught Me About Getting Older
"You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord." ESVShow respect for old people and honor them. In this way you show respect for your God. I am the Lord GWTGet up from your seats before the white-haired, and give honour to the old, and let the fear of your God be before you: I am the Lord. THE BIBLE IN BASIC ENGLISH
“Show respect to the aged; honor the presence of an elder; fear your God. I am GOD. MSG
Respect for those that are older than us has been lost. Most people who have gray hair don't like to show it. Honestly, I am one of those. I don't like for all of my gray hairs to show. I dye my hair so that all of my gray hairs will not show. I don't mind that some show, however, I do not want every last one of them to be shown. Often I find new gray hairs popping up in places that used to be only blackish/ brown. I now have gray hairs in my eyelashes, eyebrows, nostril, head and a few other places. I often take the tweezer and pluck them out, color them with something, brush hair over them, the best I can or dye them. It's a never-ending battle chasing these gray hairs.
The Love for Gray Hairs
It has become trendy for people to have gray hair. I don't understand it. Teens and young adults are dying their hair gray. Why? Why are they dying their hair gray, I am dying my hair to get rid of the gray. This leaves me confused. It is true if we wait long enough, fashion will go full circle. The other trend is that those that have beautiful silver tresses are embracing their hair. If my hair would turn completely white/gray/silver, I might embrace my grays totally. However, it is not totally gray, so I am working on embracing my gray hair.
When my mom was in her 30's, she had a silver streak. I have streaks. However, I also have other grays. My mom grayed early. However, my dad is 82 years old, and within the last ten years, he has started to get lots of gray hairs. However, he is still not fully gray. So, I am somewhere in the middle of my parents.
Gray hair used to be a sign of old age. It used to represent wisdom and respect. However, it seems that respect for those that are older has been lost. When looking around, I ask myself why. Is it because we don't know how to respect anyone anymore. Or is it because we can't tell who our elders are these days. Maybe it's because the elderly don't want to act or look their age.
Respect is "a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements." If you notice the definition for respect states nothing about the elderly. Many people will still ask why I should respect my elderly. However, if you think about the synonyms for respect which are: esteem, appreciate, high regard, favor, honor, attentiveness, politeness, courtesy, consideration, thoughtfulness, cherish, have a high opinion of or think much of. Now it is obvious that we are to respect our elders.
Some teens and young adults believe they know it all and do not need the advice that is saturated with wisdom from those that are older than them. Some teens and young adults believe that older adults are out of touch and do not understand what is going on today. Therefore, they do not tap into the wealth of experience that is available to them. Many of us are shoved to the side and are used when absolutely needed. Young people rely on their knowledge, however, older people rely on their wisdom, experience, and knowledge. Proverbs 20:29 "The glory of young men is their strength, but the splendor of old men is their gray hair."
Proverbs 16:31 "Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life."
ESV Gray hair is an honor. Those who have earned those gray hairs have a story/testimony to tell. The story didn't come by way of dye or a wig, but by way of life experiences.
I Timothy 5:1-2 "Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity."
"Don’t be harsh or impatient with an older man. Talk to him as you would your own father, and to the younger men as your brothers. Reverently honor an older woman as you would your
and the younger women as sisters.
MSG These verses should be plastered everywhere so that we can get back to respecting those who are older than us and helping those who are younger than us. We are told how to treat the elderly. Most of us would not verbally abuse, yell at, talk bad to or about our parents in public; we are told here, that we should treat older men and women as we would treat our moms and dads. Also, we are to treat the younger ones as our family.
I Kings 12:13-14 "And the king answered the people harshly and forsaking the counsel, and the old men had given him, he spoke to them according to the counsel of the young men, saying, '"My father made your yoke heavy, but I will add to your yoke. My father disciplined you with whips, but will discipline you with scorpions.'" ESV
Seeking wise counsel is one of the secrets to success. However, many seek wise counsel, but they don't do anything with it. Young people will talk to older people. However, they also talk to their buddies that's around their age. Many times they listen to their elders but will not follow through.
Sometimes, it is their pride that won't let them do it; they don't have the faith to trust God because they can't depend on their knowledge or they become jealous and envious of their elders.
No one can make a person listen to us. Our experiences are valuable. Wisdom has taught me not to force myself upon anyone. What I have is valuable. It's not for everyone. Treat it as a valuable commodity. Those who need it and want it and come seeking it. Protect your jewel.