How to Use Your Faith to Help Those Who Are Mourning

Helping others through grief and comforting those who are in trouble is one the highest ranking responsibilities of humanity. That is when we are mutually strengthened, encouraged, and comforted by each other's faith, both yours and mine. Everyone grieves differently depending on their personality, religious beliefs, maturity, emotional stability, and cultural traditions. To those who are mourning, be strong and let your heart take courage, fill your heart with hope, raise your eyes to God, and He will show you the broad and the inner meanings of the life. Ask God for help; God will shower you with His grace, and bring you out of your distress.

The Grief

We will experience incidents of pain and sorrow in our life. It allows God to show the true believer's how close He is those who have a broken heart and crushed with grief. God said, “They who sow in tears shall reap in joy and singing.” Psalm 126:5  KJV Lastly, our prayer is for those who are mourning, depressed, or just stressed out and discouraged. Believing in God will give you the strength to walk through the deep, sunless valley of the shadow of death, fearing no evil, for God, is with you; God protection and guidance will comfort you.

The Symptoms

The symptoms people share while mourning is being physically drained, hard time to sleep, unable to think clearly, change in appetite, headaches or nausea, eats and drinks excessively, dreaming about the deceased, and becoming lonely and pathetic. Here are some general counseling guidelines:

The Guidelines

  1. Ask the mourner to weep (their emotional reactions are natural). Because weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. “They who sow in tears shall reap in joy and singing.” God will rejoice His mercy and steadfast love because God saw your affliction and distresses.

  2. Help the mourner to reduce additional stress and help in organizing and prioritizing their recovery related tasks. Help them to draw on their strengths and develop healthy coping mechanisms. Caringly help them to grieve their losses in their way.

  3. Use reflecting feelings: name the feeling through the actual words of the individual or observation of their eyes, facial expression, posture, and voice tone.

  4. Ask God for guidance about when to speak and what to say.

  5. Encourage the bereaved person to share his or her feelings, and then be a good listener and do not judge what they said.

  6. Avoid platitudes. Let the person feel sorrow without implying that he or she should cheer up or be joyful in the Lord, as this could give the impression you are questioning the person’s spirituality. You still need to emphasize on the idea that we should not allow ourselves to fall into a deep pit of depression that we are stuck in. We are to grieve for a season, and then move past the grief.

  7. Do does not push or preach, but if the person indicates an openness, pray and share meaningful Scriptures and listens in a supportive manner. God said, “I will wipe away every tear from your eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be sorrow and mourning nor grief nor pain anymore.”

  8. Do simple things such as bringing a meal or mowing the lawn.

  9. Finally, advice the mourner to use any of these techniques enjoyed by the loved one. Prepare a favorite meal or dessert, watch a movie, play music, light a candle, look through photo albums and focus on shared times and memories, wear clothing given to you by the loved one, or visit the burial place and volunteer for an organization in memory of your loved one.

Now may our God who loved us, gave us everlasting consolation and encouragement and well-founded hope through His grace, comfort, encourage your hearts, and strengthen them in every good work and Word.