What I Would Say to My 20-Year-Old Self
Has there ever been a time in your life when you wished that you could go back and tell your former, younger self some much-needed wisdom? Are there things if you knew them when you were younger, you would not have made that mistake? I can understand how you are feeling. In fact, there are a few things I would say to my 20-year-old self if I were given the opportunity.
You Are Allowed to Make Mistakes
I do not know what it is about this age, but once we become “grown,” we automatically think that we must have the answers to everything. Nowhere is this true as when we first become adults. How is it possible to go from the awkward teenage years to smooth sailing through our early adult years? It just is not realistic, and now I realize that I placed too much pressure on myself.Making mistakes is part of the learning process. It helps us to mature and to grow up. It is only when we make mistakes and then beat ourselves up for them without learning the lesson that they fail to be useful. No human being on this Earth will ever be perfect. Remember, these years are about tremendous change and transition, so you are bound to come face to face with finding yourself and your new identity and even challenging everything that you once thought you knew about something or someone.
Try to Enjoy Yourself
The period is already filled with tremendous pressure. Along with college or work, there are added responsibilities of becoming an adult. There are new roles to take on and discovering how everyone else and you fit in there. As often as you can, try to relax and enjoy life. This time will pass by much quicker than you think, believe me. The last thing that you want to do is look back on this time with regret and wish that there were things that you had done.During this time in your life, you will have tremendous energy and even may be able to stay up all night. As you grow older, this will become more difficult, although you might have to work hard, try to play harder but, within reason. It is okay to go to a party or to spend time with your friends. Also, do not be afraid to try new things such as new foods or places to visit.
This Will Pass
Any difficulty that you are currently going through will pass. Just remember that. Despite the so-called need for perfection from others, throughout every transition in life, there can be difficulties that need to be overcome. If you are unsure of your college major, having a hard time with your new boss, or even unsure of where a relationship is heading, just realize that all of these difficulties will end in time. Eventually, they will be replaced by harder, more complex challenges, but do not let this scare you. You are exactly where you need to be at the time. What you are going through right now will help you transition to the next period within your life.
You Do Not Have to Know Everything
I feel the need to stress this yet again. You do not have to be perfect and know everything. You're allowed to make mistakes and allowed to challenge your identity, try a new look, and travel the world. You are allowed to discover what truly makes you happy. There is never a better time in life to do this than now; otherwise, you might be having a mid-life or quarter-life crisis sooner than you think. Just try to enjoy where you are right now, and live life to the fullest that you can.