Find You Before Him/Her
Finding you before him/her can be hard. Finding him/her can be even more difficult. How do you know he/she is the right one for you? What if I mess up and ruin everything? These are good questions to ask. I don't have all the answers to the questions you are asking yourself, but hopefully, I can answer a few of them. The first and most important advice I can give you is this: find you before him/her.Finding you is not always the easiest challenge. You want to fit in and impress your friends. Being accepted is normal. The important thing to remember is to be true to yourself. Relationships change people. Whether it's friendships, family relationships, and even boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, people affect you. That can be a good thing or a bad thing. You respect your significant other's opinion of you.Dressing, talking, and acting like what they want is only natural. He/she is meant to sharpen you and grow you into a better version of yourself. But, relationships can be tough. Before you realize it, you've become something you don't like anymore, and all to make him/her like you. Finding you is hard. Let me help.
The Coin Toss
Criticism is the hardest thing to hear. Believe it or not, we are our worst critics. Take that pity party train of, no one likes me, or I just don't fit in and park it way over on the other side of the room. There are two sides to every person. You and I included. Like a coin being flipped over and over, we tend to flip-flop back and forth between the good and bad side of ourselves. The coin toss of whether we land on our good or bad side is a love hate relationship. There will always be things about ourselves that we will love and hate; that's life. But we have a choice. We can sit and pout, or we can get up and do something about it.
You Are Worthy
The good in you is as easy as seeing a lighthouse in the fog. It's there, but hard to see. You are a unique person worthy of anyone's affection. Don't let bad past relationships and mistakes tell you otherwise. Look inside yourself and see the real person. Make a list of things you like about yourself. Put it on a sticky note or tape a note to your bathroom mirror, your bedroom door, and your fridge so you can see it every day. As you look into that bathroom mirror and read all the good things you wrote, you will start to see that the outside of you is merely a reflection of the treasure within.
Stay True to Yourself
Unlike the lighthouse shining your goodness, sometimes all you can focus on is the negativity that surrounds you. We all have those negative thoughts about wanting to be like someone else. If I could just be the right size, he/she will love me more. Maybe if I acted like this or hung out with the popular crowd, I'd be noticed more. I've got news for you. Your significant other will love you no matter what you look like, how you act, or who you hang out with. Don't change yourself just to get a guy/girl. Stay true to who you are.
Mr. & Mrs. Right
Mr./Mrs. Right will love you in spite of your past mistakes. The mistakes you made are in the past. Please do yourself a favor and leave them there. You deserve someone who will treat you like a king/queen. Don't stop searching until you find that one. I don't know about guys, but girls, we love to come up with a list of what we want in a significant other. What are your likes and dislikes? The obvious ones would be age, height, religion, hobbies, and occupation. Sometimes you don't know what you like until you try it out. That's what dating is all about. See what you like and what you don't. Finding him/her will be much easier. Always remember that no matter what, finding the right one is worth it in the end. All those years of searching will pay off when you marry your best friend.SaveSave