Some Do's and Don'ts of Dating in Your 20's
Dating at any age can be tricky, but in your twenties, it can be more so. People are still learning about themselves as much as they are learning about you, and maturity can sometimes be an issue. Here are the do's and don'ts of dating in your twenties.
DO: Figure Out What you Want
This is something that people of any age sometimes struggle with, but knowing what you want is the best first step to take. This narrows down your options and helps you understand exactly what you are looking for. "Take whatever you can get" is not the approach that will work. Sit down, and take some time to think about exactly what it is you look for in a significant other.
DO: Consider The Culture
People are getting married later than before, or not at all sometimes. According to 2012 marriage statistics via ForYourMarriage.org, the median age of first-time married couples averages out to twenty-eight years old and twenty-six years old for men and women respectively. The same statistics determined that the number of marriages that take place annually has decreased by fifty percent over the last forty years. Part of this is due to the rising number of women seeking employment in the workplace. The effect of this on dating culture is that young people, particularly women, are seeking to establish themselves financially before romantically. Young men and women may have to accept the fact that they may not be someone's priority, and adjust their expectations because of this.
DON'T: Lower Your Expectations
Some people advise that we lower our expectations if we want to end up with someone. This leads to dissatisfaction on one end of a potential relationship. Lowering your expectations is unfulfilling for you, and unfair to whoever you might be dating. Be willing to give the effort and have the patience to be with a person that truly meets your expectations.
DON'T: Over-rely on The Internet
The internet can be a useful tool for going on dates and meeting people, but it should never be the first choice. Life can be extremely busy, but relying on apps or sites too much creates a couple of negative impacts. First, it becomes a crutch and a substitute for real socialization. Second, it allows for instant gratification with matches and getting to know people, which creates an unrealistic approach to dating in reality. There is merit to using dating apps and profiles, but use them as a supplement rather than the main approach. Online dating has its own set of issues, some of which are on display in these eHarmony statistics.
DON'T: Forget Your Age
Some people feel like they need to get married, settle in, and have children all before they are thirty. Our twenties are the golden age of life, and we will never get to enjoy these years again. You have the rest of your life to have a family and marriage. Experience life for a while, provide some security for yourself and see what the world has to offer you before you settle in.