Can Men & Women Really Just Be Friends

The day-old question of whether or not men and women can really be "just" friends has been asked repeatedly. There are so many opinions on it that no one really knows the true answer anymore. Perhaps it really depends on the friendship in question and the type of friendship they have. Alternatively, maybe there isn’t just one answer to this ambiguous question, either way, the same qualities you want in a friend you often look for in a partner. Which is why so many wonder if it is possible for men and women just to be friends? 

Why Society Doesn't Believe Men & Women Can Just Be Friends

Ever since the beginning of time, God created a man to need women, whether it was as a helpmate or to procreate. Men depended on women for more than one reason. While women were created to be far more dependent and with a sixth sense that men lack. A lot of the time, society always sees things in that traditional way. This is another reason why any time a man and woman are friends; many want to believe it has to be more. Some of the world's longest and best couples indeed started as best friends. Friendship is indeed an essential aspect of finding that someone. These are the main reasons why so many believe that men and women that are great friends have to be more.

Statistics of Men That Are Just Friends with Women

Friendships between men and women are on the rise in the U.S. In recent times, there’s been less cultural skepticism around friendships between gay men and straight women. Platonic relationships between straight, unmarried men and women are still subject to some suspicion. In his 2008 Geoffrey Greif, Ph.D., a professor, wrote that 65 percent of women and 75 percent of men reported having nonsexual friendships with the opposite gender. He discovered an equal percentage of men and women have platonic friendships. 

The Beginning of Men & Women Having Platonic Relationships

For most of human history, men and women lived in the same worlds until they got married. Meaning men only hung out with men and women only hung out with women. Even after marriage, men and women, for the most part, continued to have distinct and separate social lives. Men would hang out with other dudes all day on the hunt in primitive times. At work or in male-only colleges in more modern times; women stayed at camp or at home and hung out with their gal pals. It really wasn’t until the late 19th and early 20th centuries that men and women being friends became a thing. More women entered the once predominately male workforce and university system. Men and women had to figure out how to have relationships with each other that weren’t romantic or sexual. Years later, it is still a relatively unanswered question that many don’t have the answer to. The only times a man and woman can really be friends are if they started as friends and have never been more. Or are not attracted to each other and feel as though they are better off as just friends.