Over the many times, I have moved I have made friends and lost friends. I have had friends who have stayed in my life for years and then had friends who I have not talked to in a long time. The truest of friends I have made were the ones I made in college. Those friends and I grew closer than I ever did during my short times in other states but I never felt like those relationships lasted very long. Nevertheless, what makes a real friendship versus a fake relationship?
- Those friends will be there through the bad times and the good times.
- When you need to talk, your real friends will be there with their full attention.
- True friends will pray for you, cry with you, and laugh with you, however, real friends can be unbelievers as well. Some of my greatest friends are non-believers.
- A real friend does not have to talk to you 24-7 but you both can pick up where you left off when you meet up again.
- A true friend will have your back but also be honest with you when you mess up.
- Those true friends can get on your nerves at times but in the end, you two will work it out and will not stay mad at each other forever.
- All your real friends will eventually become your chosen family. I have considered some of my real friends to be my brothers and sisters and I would do anything for them.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity. Proverbs 17:17 NIV
- Will take but never give. You will feel drained instead of uplifted.
- They will often time betray you.
- They will only be there when they want to be.
Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Proverbs 17:9 NIV
In the end, it comes down to if you feel like the friend is a true friend or a fake one. Just know that a real friend does not have to be a believer. In fact, sometimes we learn things from those friends who are not believers that can help us in our walk. I learned, from a non-believer who I consider my brother, how to be strong in tough times. He showed me a way to hold on to the hope in my life rather than focusing on the bad in my life. Always try to work out your relationships with each friend. Sometimes people have rough days, and that is something that a true friend should remember.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10