Saying no can be difficult, especially so when dealing with friends. Sometimes you’re just not in the mood to go out, but you don’t want to disappoint. Maybe you had a bad week, or maybe you’re just exhausted. The truth is we all need some me time, and we may not enjoy doing all the same things our friends are. Nonetheless, there are ways to say no without being rude or feeling sorry.
Don’t makeup or exaggerate excuses as to why you can’t go. For one, you don’t want the burden of trying to keep up the lie or feeling sorry because you just lied to your friends. Also, you don’t want to get caught in the lie. Be honest about why you don’t want to go. It can be as simple as saying, I’m just not feeling it tonight. You could express to them that you value your rest, so it’s best for you to stay in. Whatever the reason, understand that you have the right to choose what you do with your time and stand confidently in that. If you sound like you’re on the fence about it, people will most likely try to convince to go. If you’re confident in you decision, they’ll probably accept it.
The reason most people don’t react well to being told an is that they feel rejected. If these are your friends, make sure they know you’re saying no to the event and not to them. Tell them you won’t be going to the party, but you’ll see them on Wednesday for your weekly coffee get together (or whatever you normally do). Be sure to emphasize that the reason you’re not going is personal to you and not a slight on them. The point is you when you walk away from this conversation you and your friends should feel respected and valued.