If you have ever wondered how motherhood might change you and if you will be prepared for this new stage in your life, rest assured that you will be very prepared. For those of us mothers who are concerned with being the best mother possible, this alone will ensure and determine that you have what it takes to be not only the best mother but also the best person. Becoming a mother will bring some unexpected changes both positive and negative.
Deep, Undeniable, & Unconditional Love
First and foremost, once you lay eyes on your precious, baby, love develops like no other. It is hard to describe this if you haven’t experienced it. Imagine a mother lion doing what is necessary at any cost to protect her kin. No matter what danger your child is in, you will be there to help him or her. Your baby will make you fearless but also fearful of everything. In addition to going to the ends of the earth for your precious baby, you will also worry about every little thing. What if that cough is pneumonia? How do I know if my baby is eating enough? Is the baby getting enough sleep or too much sleep? Am I doing a good job?
New Role of Motherhood
Along with the many other roles you have, motherhood will be a shocking experience to you. Even if you were extremely busy before, the life you had before will fade in comparison. There will no longer be moments to rest after work or to sit around idly. Once that baby arrives, you are at his or her beck and call 24/7, 365 days a year. Let that sink in for a moment. You will always be a mother and will still need to manage your other roles in life. For the rest of the world, they are going on with their lives and won’t seem to understand your new dilemma; this can be very frustrating. You will begin to build strength in yourself that you did not know was possible. Time management will become your new best friend, but be aware that there will be some days where even with your best efforts that you still fall short somehow. Perhaps that load of laundry was not finished, or you failed to complete some extra projects for work. You have to learn to do your best and not be too hard on yourself.
Along with this, you will have many sleepless nights and many nights where you might cry out of frustration. Lack of sleep will become your reality for at least a few months. If you are fortunate, once your infant is three to four months old, he or she will settle down and begin to sleep more often. Just be sure to rest whenever you can. You will also learn that you will defend your child at any cost. If you are like me and tend to avoid confrontation, if there are any concerns regarding your child, you will address them immediately.
Becoming More Assertive
Areas where you used to be more passive and not speak up will have you being more assertive; you will also want to improve your life and become a better example for your child to follow. If you become family-oriented, you may desire a career that allows you to spend more time with your child. Things that used to matter to you like going out at night, making lots of money, or spending lots of time with your friends will change. You will begin to look forward to spending your time with your new baby.
Better Health is Important
Your health will also become important so that you will have the energy to raise your baby. You will also want to lose the additional baby weight and get to a healthier weight to reduce your risk of developing illnesses or diseases. Your child will also see you as an example to follow; therefore, it is good to develop and maintain healthy habits such as exercising and healthy eating. You can even do these activities with your child in the future and encourage them.
You Can Be the Best Mother Possible
Although life can be many changes, none can be as life-changing as the birth of a child and the realization that you as the mother are responsible for helping this little being to grow into the best possible human being. It is true that it does take a village to raise a child. You will need all of the help that you can get; however, realize that you have what you need to raise your child efficiently and be sure to seek additional assistance if you ever need it.