Have you every truly considered how impacting words can be? Our parents have always said time and time again, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. All us ladies can recall the first time a boy told us we were pretty, We’ve all had those words that someone has said in our life time that just follow us around, good and bad. The trajectory of our lives can be completely turned inside out just because of one person’s words to us, how amazing and terrifying is that.
My first story is one that I can truly say changed the completely view of my life because of one little boy. When I was in 6th grade there was no understatement about how chubby and awkward I was, no matter how much my daddy told me I was pretty we both knew that my life was gonna be rough if I kept living my life that way, but it never really hit me. Until, the boy I had liked for six years found out about my feelings and found me on the play ground. “Hey, Rebecca, it’s cool that you like me, but can you stop cause my friends are making fun of me for it, thanks” The trajectory of my life has forever been changed because of those words even though they happened 11 years ago. My self-esteem and love for myself completely shattered and it took God’s grace to finally tell me I’m worth more to believe it.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well..” – Psalm 139:14 NLT
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:7 NLT
Christ sacrificed himself for the broken, for the forgotten, for the dirty, and clean. He found us all beautiful in the midst of all our imperfections and corruption found inside us. So why on earth are we letting ourselves or even people who don’t know us or care for us tell us we are not beautiful. Don’t you think the creator of the universe, the one who made snow-covered mountains and lavish rainforests and rainbows, would know what beauty truly is? I know this post is about words and this is a key part of that (even though it doesn’t seem like it) but when you really think about it, who is our greatest enemy besides Satan? Ourselves. Don’t we deserve to treat ourselves with kindness just as we are taught to treat others with kindness?
For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church. Ephesians 5:29 NLT
When you hate yourself and tell yourself “I’m ugly”, “I’m useless”, “I’m not worthy”, your basically saying you messed up Jesus. Christ loved the church so much to die for it, he saw your worth, why can’t you? Love yourself, treasure yourself, and take care of what Christ sacrificed for! Forgive yourself of all the hatred you have shown yourself and clothe yourself with the truth of God’s word. You are beautiful, embrace it!
My next story is one a lot of us struggle with especially us girls, that are skilled assassins in the art of vocal warfare. I am so guilty of using words as weapons, I love to gossip, and most of the time I don’t even realize I’m doing it! You may not realize at the moment but each time you speck badly about another person, it’s hurtful and it is a horrible reflection of you especially if you have declared yourself a Christian. This past year I was gifted 4 roommates who I do love dearly and I know even though we may not get along all the time, we were placed together for a purpose. I have been completely guilty of hurting people through speaking badly about them, which is sinful and wrong, which is why I feel comfortable speaking about this. I know what it’s like to be spoken about and to speck of, don’t let it fool you, it hurts both ways.
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor? James 4:11-12
“But who are you to judge your neighbor?”, such powerful words. We will all, one day be at the gates to be welcomed by God into our eternal bliss but before that we must all be judged for each and every one of our sins. That day will come for all of us but while we are on earth we should be kind to our neighbors, our friends, our sisters in Christ. I know this is harder than just saying it, it calls us to be conscious of all the things we do and think about during the day. It calls for us to live through scripture because that is the only truth that can stand against all else. You need to armor yourself with the armor of Christ, which is the word of God on a daily basis.
If you do speck badly of others and have hurt someone, be open and honest with them. Say: “yes, I have hurt you and I’m deeply sorry. I am a sinful human being and I understand that and I acknowledge that I hurt you. I hope you can forgive me.” You are not perfect, but that also isn’t an excuse for hurting another imperfect person who is dealing with things you can’t even imagine. On the other hand, never forget to be kind to yourself as well, you are created beautiful in his image and the fact that Christ died for you should give you enough incentive to say “yes, I am worthy of love.” Be kind, be loving, and always strive to be as Christ lived on earth. We are all flawed but thank the Lord that we have the greatest example of grace in Christ Jesus, a savior that died for all our sins and loves us eternally.
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32 NLT