Look for the positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder. Let the challenges make you strong.
Sometimes you are going to have days where you stop and ask yourself, could life be any more difficult? And just when you feel like it all is going a bit too well, something happens. Suddenly you find yourself in despair, wondering why these things are happening to you. You find yourself annoyed at those who tell you to “stay positive” because “everything will work itself out in the end.” They also tell you that God has a plan for you, even if you can’t see it now. Deep down, you know that those people are right. You know that everything will work itself out. It’s just getting to that point and past it that seems difficult. So how do you stay positive until then? How do you find that inner strength to keep going when it feels like you’re moving through quicksand and hitting a brick wall every time?
When you’re struggling, it seems like there is no end in sight. There’s no light at the end of the tunnel and the universe is against you, weighing you down with all of its negativity. It’s tough to ‘bounce back’ as they say. Speaking from experience, I know how hard it is to struggle and find the positive in the negative. I know what it is to struggle and feel as though no matter how hard you try, nothing is going to change. I know what it is to feel as though there is nothing positive about life.
When you are at your lowest point, you have two choices: give up or fight back. Are you going to lie down and give in or are you going to stand up and fight back? Giving in sometimes seems like the easiest decision because fighting back seems too hard. I’ve been there. There are times where I have thrown my hands in the air and declared “I’m done. I’ve fought as long as I can and I’m done fighting. The positivity train has left the building!”
Staying positive is hard. Fighting back is hard. The key is to keep going. Keep fighting. Keep moving. You have to hold on to hope. Through every dark situation, in the darkest hour, you have to hold on to hope. Hope is what will keep you moving. Sometimes hope is all you have left. But you also have to change your frame of mind, the way you think. If you keep thinking negative and holding on to negative thoughts, then your life will become negative. The negative will push out the positive. Realize that sometimes yes, life happens and it’s not always fair. Things won’t always go your way. But it doesn’t mean that you should give up and stop trying. You should never stop fighting.
Becoming a more positive person takes time. I’ve always been a fairly positive person but there have been times when I have struggled to maintain a positive frame of mind. I try to find one positive thing about each day. I try to start and end my day on a positive note. Even if it’s something small.
According to Psychology Today, here are 6 tips for how to become a more positive person:
- Practice gratitude – be thankful for what you have
- Two steps forward – start shifting your mindset to a more positive one and be patient with yourself while doing this as it takes time
- Positive posture – stand up straight, shoulders back, chin up. When your body feels a shift in its posture, it immediately shifts the frame of mind as well. (Hint: try standing in what’s called the ‘Superman’ (or Superwoman) pose. Legs apart, hands on your hips, chin up. Studies have shown that standing in those pose helps you to feel more confident.
- Smile – believe it or not, simply smiling can help shift your attitude from negative to positive. You don’t necessarily have to have something to smile about; just the simple act itself is a small step.
- Ditch the crabs – take a look around at your current circle of friends and the people you’ve been surrounding yourself with. Are any of them contributing to the negativity you feel? If so, start separating yourself from them and concentrate on surrounding yourself with more positive individuals. By surrounding yourself in positivity, you start to feel it on the inside as well.
- Do something kind – in my last post I talked about the power and importance of giving back. By giving back, not only does it make those individuals feel better, it also makes you feel better knowing that you’re doing something to help someone else.
The most important thing to remember is to be patient with yourself. Change takes time, but by starting small, you can work your way up. Positivity takes time, especially if you haven’t been very positive to begin with. Surround yourself with people who are positive. Try a Superman pose once a day. Smile at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a pep talk before starting your day. Tell yourself that you can do this and by fighting back, you’re becoming a stronger, more resilient person and you can handle anything life throws at you. God wants you to be a warrior and warriors never back down. Warriors keep fighting. Have faith that things will work out the way they were meant to.